If you have a close group of friends, then you understand—there’s just no substitute. If you don’t, I hope these attributes of true friendship will help you find a group and become the best friend that you can be.
1. True friends aren’t high-maintenance.
They give more than they take, are easy to be around, and bring joy to your life. A demanding, high-maintenance friendship will not last very long.
2. True friends are good cheerleaders—their support makes you feel like you can do anything.
When I was writing my first book, the “Fab 5” cheered me on through writer’s block and nitpicky editors. They helped host my book launch party and prayed me through my book tour. And, because they love me, they listened sweetly as I talked about writing (and other boring subjects).
3. True friends don’t pressure or guilt each other. They practice mutual respect.
Recently, I witnessed a true “bridezilla” in our town pressure friends to come to her wedding showers. She sent angry texts and made frustrating remarks to those who couldn’t make it. Her disrespectful attempt to control her friends only turned them away.
4. True friends aren’t perfect.
Sooner or later, your friends will say or do something that hurts you. Expect it. Since we all make mistakes, be quick to forgive and to ask for forgiveness. If you have an issue with a friend, love them enough to approach them humbly and talk it out instead of walking away without saying a word.
5. True friends are trustworthy; they don’t go around telling other people your secrets.
In high school, I had a friend who just couldn’t resist spreading the latest gossip—which sometimes included things I had told her in confidence. After she divulged several of my secrets (and thoroughly embarrassed me), we parted ways. From this, I learned that a friendship without trust isn’t a friendship at all.
6. True friends are a treasure; thank God for them regularly.
True friends don’t come into your life very often. When they do, thank God for them on a regular basis. This will remind you that your friends aren’t simply people you hang around with—they are a blessing sent from God. As your appreciation for your friends grows, your relationships will grow too.
Source: by May Patterson
Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of Genesis University.